How to Avoid the “Cheese Factor” at your Wedding
It seems like the biggest challenge facing brides is:
“How do I have a fun wedding reception…that ISN’T cheesy?”
I’ve learned a thing or two about a thing or two about “cheese” in my fifteen plus years of weddings…
“Chuck’s Rules of Cheese”
1. Cheese (the non-dairy kind) is relative.
What’s “cheesy” to you might be fun for the next bride. I meet with brides all the time who say they don’t want anything cheesy at their wedding, then will say later that I must play the Electric Slide for their grandmother.
Some brides will find the Electric Slide cheesy, but the Cha-Cha Slide or Cupid Shuffle are OK.
Where do you fit in?
It’s important to define what is “cheesy” for you. Talk to your entertainer about it. Don’t assume that he or she knows what you mean by “cheesy.”
Be specific about the songs, artists, dances and attire that are off-limits to you.
2. Even something fun can become cheesy when it is forced.
Let me give you a real life example. At a recent wedding, one of my couples asked me to play Mr. Roboto by Styx as they were introduced. The groom danced his way in doing the robot. It was hysterical, guests holding their sides with laughter.
Now, if I decided to play Mr. Roboto out of the blue at your wedding and tried to lead everyone in the robot, would that be fun? Most likely your guests would head for the hills…or stay and laugh at the clueless DJ stuck in an 80’s time warp.
If your guests are FORCED to do something, it can quickly become cheesy. However, if it’s natural for them and your group, even “silly” can be just plain fun.
3. Cheese is always at its worst in your imagination.
Just like any other worry about your wedding, your imagination can run away with you. You start imagining everything that can go wrong reading about horror stories all over the internet.
It’s always worse in your imagination. When weddings unfold in a natural, organic, and fun way (and your guests feel comfortable, like the “Mr. Roboto” example above) everything is more enjoyable.
Even when it’s goofy, too. If you’re concerned about how your entertainer will avoid cheese, ask about it, such as what he plans to do to “get the crowd going.”
What will he do if your guests request a song on your “Cheese List/Do Not Play List?”
You can have a fun wedding reception where your guests dance all night… and you don’t have to die from embarrassment. Yes, the classic cheesy songs work to get people out of their seats… but there are lots of other great songs that work, too.
Tell me your thoughts… was this information helpful? Did you love it? Hate it? Let me know what you think!